Bad luck always comes in threes?

It has been one of those weeks that you wish you could rewind time and try it again without the drama.

Monday my new car was hit in the parking lot at work. I came out to go home and there was a note on my car of a person who apologized for hitting my car and to contact her. It was lucky that she left a note but it still is really frustrating that my pretty new car now has a bashed in front fender. The first estimate was $1200 to fix it. 

School is frustrating me. Maybe it was just this week but they are adjusting the assignment for the classes and the new templates are very confusing. I spent six long and miserable days trying to figure out how to do this last paper and I know I blew it. I just hit a wall and could not think. I worry about my grade and hope I can redeem myself over the next couple of weeks. 

Wednesday I start another class on top of the existing one. So far the reading looks interesting and seems to be stuff I can actually apply at my job. That will be a change as most of what I have learned is not as helpful in my job as it is for most completing the degree. 

Nothing is getting done at home. No christmas decorations no yard cleaning up or cars licensed. I hate the four day state workweek as D's day off is usually friday and the offices are all closed so my cars are still unlicensed. 

I am just waiting for the other shoe to drop as we had the car bashed, bad luck at school and what do we think the third thing will be?

I keep you all posted.

Always the last to know

D comes from a big family. He is the second to the oldest of six boys and two girls. Needless to say the family has gotten bigger as you add in wives and husbands and kids. I love his family but when compared to mine it is so very different. 

My parents are always willing to help. Whenever we need help or even just a shoulder they are always there. They never forget a birthday, anniversary, event or whatever is going on in our lives. They call weekly if they have not heard from us just to make sure that we are all okay. The kids love them and I know I can depend on them. 

D's parents are much different. Granted they are a bit older but they never call and we seldom hear from them. We do not see them very often, even when they visit D's sister who lives 30 min away from us. They remember the kids birthdays (usually) sometimes D's but never mine. His siblings are all over the place but nobody really keeps in touch other than the guys who play some dumb computer game together on-line. It just feels like you are not important to them. I am sure that they love D and the kids in their own way but so often it is really hard when D needs that family connection and so often he is left out. 

Why am I musing, many would appreciate the lack of interest from their inlaws. I guess it was the traditional we need money request that happens this time of year. D's siblings go together for a gift for his parents each year. I do not mind going in on a gift it saves me time trying to figure out gift I can get them (D is no help) that they will hate this year (I try to be creative, it never works). My problem is that his siblings are all about asking for money but yet we never get to participate in the choosing of the gift. It feels so much like all we are good for is the cash. D did say his brother asked him for suggestions but I think it was more an afterthought when the decision was already made. 

I get angry and frustrated because his mom and dad are missing out on so much of four really great kids. They have never seen either  Ty or Boo play in a concert, Boo play soccer or participate in any thing with my kids. They did not come to Ty's high school graduation. These are such memorable and important things and just makes me feel bad that they miss out on these great events. I know they live three hours away but it is still tough to see them miss out by their own choosing. In doing so they are also missing out on a really great son. A caring wonderful guy who tries so hard to be a good dad, husband and friend. 

I guess this teaches me to be a better parent, to treasure each moment and as my kids grow up and embark on the next steps in their life, the parent or grandparent I want to be in their future.

To my parents, Thank you for always being there. For all the times you have bailed us out come to our rescue moved our furniture and loaned D tools. For all of the great things you share with us and the time you are willing to give. Thank you for all of your love support and being you. You guys are great and I am so glad that you are my mom and dad. I love you both.

 

lack of interesting material

Sorry for no post lately. It is not that anything hasn't happened it is just taking the time to put together a post has not been in the cards. We seem to always be going in six million directions and with indoor soccer having started it makes for busy weeks. 

Boo's indoor season is officially started. They have played three games all against teams bigger and older and have not done as well as they would like. One of the teams they have played twice. Boo is doing well in her playing. She enjoys pushing the other team around. Those who have never seen an indoor soccer game it is like soccer and hockey put together. You play the ball off of the walls around the field and can push and shove a little more than in regular soccer or maybe you just notice it more because the field is smaller. Anyone who would like to come her games are on thursday nights, give us a call and we will give you more details.

A couple of weeks ago we had the great privilege to see my sister and her son in Savior of the World. It was really great and we all enjoyed it. It was really neat to get to see the show and it was fun to see them performing. Thanks for the opportunity to attend. They both did a really good job and I know it has been a lot of work for both of them.

Ty is loving her job except that she has some late nights and early mornings and seems to get tired and grumpy. We scored our first couple of perks of her job. She got us twilight tickets for Friday and we got to see the movie. Our showing was nice we did not have to wait in line and theater was not too crowded unlike the next day when she got her dad tickets to Quantum of Solace (he is a big 007 fan) that theater was very full and crowded. It was a great movie and Twilight was okay, not as good as the book(they never are)

Everyone else is doing okay. School is tough and I will have two classes together starting in two weeks and I am worried about getting all of the work done. I just keep saying four more classes. 

Happy Birthday

Happy Birthday Boo!

Today at 4:40 pm you were 15! I can still remember when you were born.  The doctor figured we would have you by noon  considering you were a 2nd baby but you refused and were born in your own good time. You were so cute with your hair standing straight up. In the hospital the nurses would put gel in your hair to get it to lay down but as soon at the get dried it was standing straight up again.

You had the most beautiful blue eyes and all of this black hair that soon after turned blonde. You were so much different from your big sister. You were all sass and hated to be carried down stairs frontwards. You were always so full of life and wanted everything your way. You loved sports, soccer and running and hated to be inside the house. You spent every hour you could outside playing. 

I love you and I am so proud of you. You work really hard and it shows. You are so talented and beautiful and I am proud to be your mom. Happy 15th birthday. 

Happy birthday......

and many more to come

Just think next year sweet sixteen.

booksale this weekend

All of you friends and family who live in the area, the big library booksale will be this weekend the 7th 8th and 10th at the library in clearfield. Lots of really great stuff. Prices are on friday $1 a hardback book, $.50 a paperback, Saturday $.50 a hardback and $.25 a paperback, monday $3 a bag or $5 a box. Times are from 5-8 on friday, 10-2 on saturday and 6-8 on monday. I will be there working all three days so if you have questions give me a call.

It is a great opportunity to get some great books at incredible prices. Some may be in tough shape but there is a lot that were donations. There will also be video's dvd's and other a.v. items as well.

check it out!

First Paychecks

Ty after much pushing and shoving from her dad and I got a job a few weeks ago. Despite the fact that she could have got a good job working for the library she decided that she wanted to work for a movie theater. She applied to all of the theaters around and finally got a job at the Tinseltown in Layton. Her dad and I were very excited for her and have tried to support her as much as possible.
Last Wednesday she got her first paycheck. It was for a little over $200 (minimum wage sucks). When she told me she had gotten paid I gave her the little talk about not spending it all at once and making sure she left enough money for gas and such for the next couple of weeks.

Well she is a teenager and she went out the next day and bough a PSP. She now has 18cents in her account, a car on empty and no money to buy gas. D tells me I am being too hard on her. It was her first paycheck and she got excited. When I talked to her after she didn't think that I was being serious on not spending the whole thing. Oh well. the sad thing is that a check that D wrote out last april for a soccer uniform got deposited this week so we are financially in the same boat as her. Oh well. I hope she saves some of the next one.

I have four cars in my driveway, one won't start (stitch), one on empty(Max), two not registered (max and big car), and my car (roxie) working toward empty since it was the only one with gas and everyone keeps driving it.

Payday is thursday.